Praying together as a couple is truly a game changer for your relationship. It strengthens your bond, deepens your faith, and invites God into the very center of your marriage. Today, I want to share why praying together is so powerful and offer five practical ways you can begin today.
The Benefits of Praying Together
When couples pray together consistently, they often experience:
- Increased intimacy
- A deeper emotional and spiritual connection
- Healing of emotional walls
- Improved communication
- Greater empathy and humility
- Growth in unconditional love
- A strengthened faith life
- A closer relationship with God
Prayer does not just change your spiritual life. It transforms the way you love, listen to, and support one another.
How to Pray Together as a Couple
1. Pray From the Heart
One of the simplest and most meaningful ways to pray together is by praying from the heart. Take turns leading. If one spouse leads today, the other can lead tomorrow. Before praying, the leader can ask the other for their intentions for the day. Then, kneel or sit together, hold hands, and begin. Start by thanking God for specific blessings in your lives. Share both your own intentions and your spouse’s. Ask the Lord to hear and answer your prayers. Thank Him in advance for His faithfulness. You can close with an Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be, or simply entrust everything to God and end with the Sign of the Cross.
2. Pray With the Daily Gospel
Praying with Scripture is a powerful way to grow together spiritually. You can open your Bible at home, use the Laudate app, or read the Gospel of the day online.
Read the Gospel aloud together, then reflect and discuss. You might ask:
- What verse stood out to you?
- What thoughts or feelings came up while reading?
- How might God be speaking to you through this passage?
- What do you feel called to do?
- Do you relate to any character or situation?
These conversations often lead to deeper understanding and spiritual intimacy.
3. Pray the Rosary Together
The Rosary is a beautiful way to grow closer to Jesus by meditating on His life through the eyes of His mother, Mary. Through her intercession, couples receive countless graces. If you need guidance, you can find step-by-step instructions HERE. A meaningful way to pray as a couple is to take turns leading each decade. One spouse can pray the first half of each prayer, and the other can respond. At the beginning, each person can offer a personal intention.
4. Choose a Novena
Praying novenas through the intercession of saints is a wonderful way to seek healing, strength, and guidance. Saints are often patrons of specific struggles or life situations they experienced themselves. If you are praying for something specific, such as children, employment, healing, or clarity, consider choosing a saint connected to that intention. There are many online resources that provide extensive lists of novenas you can explore together. One of my favorites is THIS one!
5. Pray Tobit 8:5–8
This prayer is especially meaningful for engaged and married couples. It is a beautiful passage that invites God into your relationship and marriage. My husband and I prayed this every night during our engagement at the encouragement of a priest friend, and we continue to pray it daily in marriage. We loved it so much that we chose it as a reading for our wedding Mass, and we now know it by heart. Reading and praying this passage together allows God’s grace to continually strengthen your bond.
Start Today
Now that you know what praying together can do for your spiritual life and your relationship, what are you waiting for? Start today and make it a daily habit! You will grow in your personal faith and grow closer to the one you love. If you are not used to praying out loud, praying with another person, or praying at all, it may feel awkward at first. That is completely normal. With practice, it becomes more natural and comfortable.
God will bless this time of prayer, and the fruits will be undeniable. Let’s get praying!
